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The Mostly-Successful Bean!

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009

Well, I think I can finally just use beans to cook, rather than focusing on them as the most difficult part of the meal. My latest attempt used red beans, and the beans themselves turned out just right–neither too mushy nor too dry. The whole meal was not quite as rewarding.

As usual, I chose the quick-soak method, even though I had been putting this meal off for three days and could have easily done the overnight method. I’m just not sure I can think that far in advance! So, around 11 in the morning I rinsed and sorted my beans and then put them on for a quick boil. I then let them sit for over an hour, because I desperately wanted III to be sleeping while I worked. After much screaming, he did pass out for a little nap. So I ventured into my melee of recipes, all begging to be chosen, but as I did not have all the ingredients for any single recipe, I sort of took parts from all of them (perhaps this is why my food never turns out right). By the way, I was trying to make red beans and rice—Cajun style.

Well, I had the beans, some Italian sausage, and some brown rice, so I knew we wouldn’t starve. All the recipes called for long cooking times, so I was prepared to start early (I’m not much for slow cookers; I know many laud the simplicity of dumping something in in the morning, and having dinner be ready that night, but I really prefer making a big mess right before I eat). So I pulled out my little crock pot. And I do mean little. It really should be considered a fondue pot, I think. I poured 8 cups of water in, which was 2 cups less than what was called for, and then started adding the beans.

And then, as the water started to overflow out of little crock pot, I scooped some beans and water back out. I was left with about half of my pound of beans and maybe 6 to 7 cups of water. I moved on to the sausage. As I knew space was limited, I only used 3 of the 5 links, figuring I could make another batch with the rest. After cooking those up, and slicing them, I added them to the bean water and proceeded to cut up an onion and garlic. Here’s where I learned something new! Now, this is slightly embarrassing, but I figure you’d like to know: a head of garlic is the whole big bunch with all the flaky skin hiding all the little bits, which are the cloves. So when a recipe calls for 4 cloves of garlic, it just means the little pieces, not the whole stinkin’ thing.

Fortunately, I only had one head of garlic, so I didn’t put 4 whole heads in, but I did go through and cut up every single clove. I think there were at least 10. And while the rest of the recipe was halved by force, I didn’t even think about that as I was chopping my onion and garlic, or I might have halved those, too! (On the other hand, I pretty much had no other spices that any of the recipes called for—no Cajun seasoning, no cayenne pepper, not even a green pepper.) I added a little dried red pepper, some dried bay leaves, a little sage, and regular old black pepper.

I put the pot on high and left it alone (this was around 2 p.m.). It smelled awfully garlic-y to me in the house. As Emma had slept less than 8 hours the night before, this was when I planned to give her a nap and take one myself, but instead, Crabby Pants woke up and Emma started melting down, and I lost my will to fight, so I fed him, and let her play computer games. Can’t really remember what happened after that.

We went somewhere (this was only 2 days ago, and I really can’t recall where; I just remember walking back in the house), and when we got back the whole house smelled like cooked garlic and onion, which really wasn’t a bad smell—even Emma said it smelled good! But, true-to-form, the beans didn’t seem quite done, and I needed to cook the rice.  We were supposed to go to our friends’ house to watch House after eating, but instead we decided to just take it with us and let it cook a little more. I was afraid little crock pot would spill, so I clumsily poured it all into a bigger pot (nearly dropped it all too!), and we were on our way. (I mostly cooked the rice, and added it to the pot as well.)

Lloyd put the pot on the stove for me, but had put the burner on high, and when I asked him to turn it down, he instead turned a different burner on, so a few minutes into House, we smelled smoke…

At this point I decided we just better eat it. As I said at the beginning, the beans were fine, but the whole thing—not exactly a masterpiece. Not even really Cajun. And the sausage seemed to have no flavor at all. Not even meaty. Lloyd added about a pound of salt to his bowl and said it awesome after that. And I’m still tasting garlic, two days later.

Ha! Just remembered—we went out for a playdate for Emma. Here’s what we were doing.

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Emma-isms

Tuesday, September 29th, 2009

This post will be short and tweet sweet. I don’t have much material, and really need to be cleaning our house instead of writing! (What else is new?) So, here are some Emma thoughts:

During a discussion after Joy School on things from nature versus things made by man, Emma said, “Yeah, we did nature-made and man-made, but we didn’t do girl-made.”

“Daddy likes to make people hot outside.”

And when she told me I couldn’t sing along with the radio: “No, this one doesn’t have a boy and a girl. They’re not in love.”

Emma vocab: Twickled, as in, “The bunny’s nose twickled.”

And she has taken to calling me Mud, as in short for Mother, or Mudder

Last, as she is very proud of every time she poos, she also frequently includes descriptions for us (yes, this may be slightly inappropriate, but when you’re a parent you’ll understand):

“It was the teeniest poop ever. It looked like a round little baby head.”

“It’s a huge one. A snake one, but cut apart. And moldy.”

And on that note, have a splendid, twitterific Tuesday!

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Brown Thumb

Monday, September 28th, 2009

Well, think it’s time to call it on the garden: massive fail. I knew going into this that there was a greater chance of death than success, but I also retained a tiny bit of hope that maybe this time would be different for me. Let me start by taking you back a week or so…

Remember how I mentioned that something was eating all my strawberries, and I wanted to get a fence to keep that something out? Well, we went to Home Depot, and I was going to get this green fencing called “Garden Fencing.” Seemed perfect, right? Of course, I was with my father and husband, who both wanted to be helpful, and was convinced to get chicken wire instead. Ok. No biggie. It was cheaper, anyway.

Later, I headed outside to put said chicken wire around my garden. I had envisioned in my head how I would go about doing this, but the ever-helpful husband had an even better way. But he wasn’t around to actually help, just to suggest how to do it. Being as I am fairly insecure about my gardening abilities, I attempted his method. My first problem was the chicken wire itself. It comes all neatly rolled up, but in getting it unrolled it became unruly. And as this is Texas, I was getting very sweaty. I won’t go into all the boring details of my fight, but I took a siesta on the fencing for a day or so, and when I came back I tried again, only to be completely bested into giving up. I tore it all out.

Also, in my great gardening wisdom, I decided to pull up some of the dead pumpkin plants so that the one that actually had a little tiny pumpkin budding on it could survive. This, I believe, wasn’t an entirely awful idea, but the vines were so intertwined, that I ended up damaging the healthy vine, too. The little pumpkin bud died. :(

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Here is the carnage of the removed vines and chicken wire. Been like this for a week. Should probably clean it up so Lloyd can mow. And below is a picture of the garden, post vine removal. Can you see the newly dead bits? I know it’s not completely dead yet, but I can’t find a single fruit on any of the plants, except withered, teeny pumpkins. (I did have a dream that there were like 5 fully-grown ones, though!)

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I’m sure the main problem is just not allocating enough space for the garden, but I also think there are smaller creatures now attacking my plants. The strawberry plants seem fine—they’re actually growing, but I don’t expect them to be flowering any more. The pumpkin leaves in the back are covered in little yellow dots, which to me says disease, or insect:

See the spots?

See the spots?

And look very closely right in the middle of the picture. See the little green spider?

And look very closely right in the middle of the picture. See the little green spider?

Anyway, looks like we won’t be growing our own pumpkin for Halloween this year. And next time I’ll actually have a bigger space for the vines to grow. Still, I’m just not sure I’m up to becoming a green thumb. I was reading some gardening blogs, and it seems like to really have a garden that thrives you do need to dedicate some time to it. I know, that seems like a no-brainer, but while I do think it’s cool to grow your own stuff, I just don’t care enough to work to keep out insects, disease, small creatures, weeds, AND make sure the plants get enough water, not too much sun, etc. Plus, I hear it is harder to grow things in Texas, so it’s not really my fault, right? ;)

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Where are you from?

Friday, September 25th, 2009

Meeting new people inevitably comes with the question:  ”Where are you from?” I have a problem with this question on two fronts. First, I have no answer beyond the last place I resided, and second, why does it matter?  Now seriously, I recognize that it is an issue of small talk and curiosity, but it’s got me thinking about where I’m from, and what that has to do with where I’m going.

Logistically speaking, I am from Ohio, Wisconsin, Kansas, Wisconsin (again), Nebraska, and now Texas. So really, how am I supposed to answer where I’m from? I don’t feel a particular connection to any one place; no nostalgic longings to return to the prairies and windswept landscape of Nebraska, but I do miss people from every place I’ve been.  And after my roadtrip back to Nebraska, I realized how much I do miss some people (and how little I miss Nebraska itself!).

But another thing I’m learning about where people are from, is that there really are cultural differences within our vast country, and choosing to be “from” one particular place does say something about me to others. Now, honestly, Wisconsin and Nebraska are not that different. The biggest change was hearing people talk about the Huskers instead of the Packers (both are equally annoying to hear about), although being that we were in a college town with a fair amount of other people from Wisconsin, my Nebraska-culture sort of had a Wisconsin sub-culture, I guess.

Anyway, Texas is different. I didn’t even notice it at first, and there are still some things that I’m not sure are really different, or if I just didn’t notice in Nebraska (mostly dealing with children). Take a Sunday morning. The big thing growing up was Sunday lunch. Would someone ask us out? Would we ask someone else? It was kind of expected–especially when first trying to assimilate newer visitors into friends. Sunday was the one day we could rationalize spending money eating out. Similarly, it still held the roast-in-the-oven appeal, too, which contained the same premise of fellowship through food.

Now, maybe it’s just us. Maybe we exude some sort of secret scent that says, “Please, please, don’t ask us to eat with you!” Because we’ve been asked out to Sunday lunch twice. In a year. Once when we first visited a very small congregation, and it was by an Australian guy (we already had plans, so we had to decline), and once this last weekend. Oh, and we were invited over to the preacher’s house for Easter lunch last year, which was very nice, but there were at least 20 others there, and there was an egg hunt for the kids, so…

I feel like the social comfort level is higher here. People are very friendly. They will ask after you and invite you to things, but nothing that holds you accountable. You have to log a lot of hours before joining the inner circles–before being invited to just “hang” instead of for a specific event. Granted, this is not true with all people (there are always exceptions), but I felt a more genuine connection with people in the Midwest (or it could just be that I’ve only lived here a year, and I just think I had better connections before).

It just seems the focus on appearance is much more prevalent in the south. Acrylic nails run rampant. Hair is always perfect. People are more reserved, and over-involved. I’ll look in to more differences later (the baby just woke up!), but just wanted to make the stand that I am choosing to be from Wisconsin. I’m willing to throw a little Nebraska in there (the ol’ college days), too. But now that I’m realizing there is a bit of a stigma attached to wherever you’re from, I’m just fine with being from Wisconsin. So people will assume I like cheese (they wouldn’t be wrong!), and they may ask me about the Packers, but they will also form an opinion about me simply because of where I’m from. It’s a little silly, but maybe a little true.

I’ll keep digging into these cultural differences, as well as how I’ve been affected by them, and how this translates into my future. After all, progress doesn’t happen in a box.

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Naptime

Thursday, September 24th, 2009

I wish I could say I was thankful for my naptime today, but that remains elusive. I am, however, very thankful for little Lloyd’s naptime. He hasn’t been sleeping very well, and at this point I’m willing to write it off to teething pains, as he napped yesterday and today, and yesterday was when I could first see an actual tooth in his top gum. Notice how I am even updating long before midnight! (Of course, I also chose not to clean my disastrous kitchen, living room, etc. in favor of sitting down at my computer. Emma’s not too happy, but she’s being relatively well-behaved anyway.)

And naptime has me wondering about my priorities. Not that parenting magazines are the final answer to all of life’s questions, but I have recently read two articles that left me wondering how best I should spend my time. The first article talked about stress, and the small ways to relieve it. One of these was taking even a few minutes to read something, which I also correlated into writing something. I do feel a small release of stress when I am able to write things down. It boils down to doing something for yourself, which of course makes you feel better, and thus, relieves stress.

The second article (in a different magazine) talked about the importance of sleep. Here’s where the controversy sets in. It provided a perfect picture of me: using the time after kids are finally in bed to do the things you’ve put off all day–like going on the computer. It recognized the difficulty of trying to find time during the day for yourself, but boiled it down to the conclusion that an hour more of sleep is better for you than getting your things done late at night.

Of course this struck me. That’s when I plan to have me time. Or plan to finally get to the pile of laundry on the floor. Now I find I should skip the late night catch-up–but how will I relieve my stress?? So, now I’m stuck pondering these things, which is doing nothing beneficial for my stress level, but I’m at least glad the baby is napping, so tonight I won’t be drawn to midnight-posting.

But I haven’t cleaned. And Emma’s begging for my attention. And it’s time to start thinking about what I’m doing for dinner. So what should my priorities be? And how do I follow through? I think this is going to take more than one naptime to figure out!

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Happy Birthday Lloyd!

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009

When my dad was here last I mentioned that I would like to try making brownies from scratch. His response was something like, “You can try, but they won’t be any good.” He said they end up cake-like, dense, and dry. Sounded like a challenge to me! So, seeing that today was Lloyd’s birthday, and I still had butter in the fridge that was begging to be used so that I would have one less dairy item on hand, I tackled the homemade brownie.

I used the recipe on the back of my bag of flour because 1) I was curious, and 2) I like trying recipes on packages because I know that at least one of my ingredients is the exact same as what was used in that recipe. And it must work, because the company is willing to mass produce it with their product. So, it was a bag of King Arthur unbleached all-purpose flour, brownies07which I had bought because the éclair recipe used flour, and I only had whole wheat on hand, and I had to get the big bag because the store didn’t seem to have any small bags and I didn’t feel like going to a different store. So I needed to use this flour, too. (I contemplated using half whole wheat or something, but decided for the first try, I might as well make it as directed so I’d have a baseline for experimenting.)

(Oh, and as another side comment, I just want to let you know that I took lots of pictures, and will pretend like they’re here, but in reality I won’t be able to add them in until tomorrow, because the computer I’m on isn’t reading my SD card, and the computer I need to be on is in the bedroom where Lloyd is sleeping–the big one, not the baby; he’s crying in his crib.)

So, the first step was to take 2 sticks of butter and melt it in a saucepan (it said I could do this in the microwave, but I am a very wary microwave-cooker, so I stuck to the stove). I then added sugar and allowed it to heat up again. This was supposed to help the sugar dissolve a little more.

Then I put it in a bowl and added the cocoa, baking powder, salt, and vanilla. The recipe called for Dutch-processed cocoa, and as I was buying my cocoa, sugar, and chocolate chips late the night before at Target (while we were picking up alarm clocks to place in odd places around the house to inspire Lloyd to get up on time), I only saw one kind of cocoa, and it mentioned nothing about the Dutch, but I bought it anyway. Supposedly, this is a mistake, which has something to do with the acidity or something in cocoa–I looked it up after the fact, and don’t really care that much. Maybe when I become a cocoa connoisseur I’ll understand and become a snob about it. Anyway, it looked pretty much like boxed brownie mix at this point, maybe just a little grainier.

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Then I added my eggs, which made it smooth, and my flour, which made it thick.

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Last came the chocolate chips (a nice addition, but they started melting right away since the batter was still warm because of it being started on the stove and all). I then poured, or rather coaxed, it into the greased pan.

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If you look carefully, you can see the chocolate chip melty streaks. The batter itself was very sticky–like elastic. It didn’t drip off the rubber spatula; it all just came off, like when you take play dough and capture all the little bits with the big blob. Very strange. Made me worried that I would have tough brownies.

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Cooked for about 25 minutes, and this is what it looked like when it came out! I was still worried at this point, as it didn’t settle at all; still had the same pattern from my spatula attempts at spreading it around. And in looking at the side of the dish, it looked very cake-y, which isn’t bad, and was what I expected, but I am a fan of fudge-like brownies. Well, then I made dinner (which was an experiment on whether or not steak filets are better from the door-to-door salesman, or from the super-cheap grocery brand…jury’s still out, but I’ll let you know my opinion sometime when I explain why I’m just the girl who can’t say no). And of course, Emma wanted me to decorate the birthday brownies:

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We sang, Lloyd attempted to blow out his candles, and eventually, we ate!

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The verdict: they are delicious. Lloyd says almost a little too rich; I say death by chocolate is the way to go–but only when it’s this good, rich chocolate. Almost slightly bitter (probably the lack of Dutch processing or something), but my favorite chocolate is dark, so they are perfect. And although they look cake-y, they are wonderfully fudge-y, and even have that nice crust on the top. I must say, my baking forays tend to turn out much better than my cooking ones (except bread baking; since my last fiasco–which was while I was still pregnant–I’ve been afraid to try again…but my confidence just scored a major point with these brownies, so maybe soon).

If you would like the recipe yourself, you can find it here, although my version had no mention of espresso, and their directions are a little different (like mixing the eggs with the cocoa and whatnot before mixing it with the sugar-butter, and letting the stuff cool before adding the chips). Oh, and don’t bother looking at the nutrition facts at the bottom. Ugh.

P.S. I know I’m terribly good at talking a good game–eating healthy, avoiding dairy, etc., but so far I’ve done nothing but talk, and keep showing things that are not so very good for you, but oh-so-very-delicious, and I really have nothing to say for myself. I’m just a junkie. And a dreamer, remember? And really, if I achieved my end goal so quickly, then I would be done with my progress and would have nothing left to write but perfection, and how you too could be wholesome and healthy. And then this blog would be obsolete and you might as well just read someone else’s. So, what I’m trying to say here, is that I will continue to be imperfect so that you may continue to be entertained, and of course, encouraged. I just wish I could find a way to have rock-hard abs while consuming these delightful brownies…

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He was happy for a little while!

He was happy for a little while!

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Spoiled Milk

Tuesday, September 22nd, 2009

Before I get too much into this, I will explain first that this was all inspired from a tweet I read, which is why this is a worthy topic for today.

Out of all the places I have lived, I have spent the most years in Wisconsin, and I must admit that I have a bit of the dairy state ingrained in me. I love my ice cream, cheese, etc. Growing up, our home went through milk rather quickly–we pretty much only drank milk and Kool-Aid. Now, when I met Lloyd, at the impressionable age of 17, he had many things which he felt very strongly about, and among these things was milk. Milk = evil. Of course, since I had no pleasant inclinations toward Lloyd at first, this only added to my dislike. How could my precious dairy be bad?!

Obviously, I got over my distaste for Lloyd, and I began listening to the things he had to say, and to look into them myself. Somewhere along the line I decided milk wasn’t as great as its advertising, but at the same time, I could not do away with it. I mostly stopped drinking milk, but nothingwas keeping me from my ice cream. After all, I hadn’t seen any adverse effects from consuming it thus far. So this stayed in the back of my mind.

Well, I get crazier (I think it runs in both sides of the family!). Someone tweeted an article from USA today that brought out all my old suspicions, and I began digging again. This particular article addressed the concept that it is not rather amazing that people should be lactose intolerant, but that they should be tolerant. The article is rather interesting, but I will not go into its summation. I will get to my point.

We’re cutting out dairy. Detoxing. We’ll see where this leads us. According to the proponents of the evils of milk, if we get rid of it, we should see better digestion, perhaps weight loss, clearer skin, more restful sleep, and in general just feel better. I’m not saying I’ve become completely crazy and I think everyone must stop digesting dairy, but I’d like to give it a try. Test it out.

I’m going to need to do a little more research, though. I’m slowly using up our dairy and substituting in other things, but I’m not so sure of the things I’m substituting. For instance, I chose soy milk because it contains a good amount of protein, but in reading more on it, I am afraid I may have exchanged one evil for another. Clearly, this will be quite an experiment, but I will continue to research and find better substitutes (or hope to cut some things out completely!). For now, I am aiming on cutting out dairy for 6 months, and then perhaps bringing it back in small amounts to see what it affects; however, I have recently read that it only takes 7 days to detox, so this will be a changeable process.

Of course, I will update with changes, outcomes, and probably some good recipes that I come across. And I’ll let you know how we’re all dealing with our lack of cheese and ice cream! (Already tried some tofutti ice cream sandwiches, which were surprisingly delicious! But then I read a couple comments on connecting tofu with infertility…yikes!)

P.S. Can we all pretend this was Tuesday’s post, not Wednesday’s? Just because it’s after midnight does not mean my day has ended!

P.P.S.  Haha! I just discovered I can back-date the post, so now my previous comment makes no sense…but I feel bad deleting it, so that’s why I am adding an additional postscript. That’s all.

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Monday Monday

Monday, September 21st, 2009

It really has been a Monday, which I always think is a funny thing to say for someone who stays home every day. It started late last night (well, early this morning). III refused to go to bed, and once he did pass out, he was awake a few hours later, and continued to scream for an undetermined amount of time (since I fell asleep to the screams). Fortunately, he did sleep eventually, which was nice, but until about 2 minutes ago, he slept maybe a total of 30 more minutes all day. Really, is it a wonder that I haven’t posted? I really don’t have much left to give. A month ago, when I started seriously trying to be progressive, my son was at least napping a little. I had a small window of time during the day to myself. Well, sort of. There was still Emma wandering around, but she entertains herself pretty well, and at least wasn’t scream-crying while I tried to focus.

So now here I am, fresh out of brain power, and sorry to say, but the siren call of my pillow is much stronger than the call to log some progress time, especially since I’m not feeling very progressive today… Sorry to disappoint. I am planning on updating on my garden this week, though, and I’ll let you know about a new dietary adventure we’re getting into at our home!

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Dreams

Friday, September 18th, 2009

I am a dreamer. Not much of a doer, but I’m exceptionally good at dreaming. I think dreams can be a good thing when they are used to inspire us and drive us to better ourselves; unfortunately, they can also keep us from being content in the life we’re living. This is a particular struggle of mine–spending time dreaming and imagining, rather than investing in the life I have. Let me give you a picture of myself and my dreams:

I would like to be a movie star. Like Sandra Bullock. Or at least a television actress (love to be on a Stargate-like show, but I’d settle for a sitcom). At the very least, I’d enjoy being a cartoon voice.

I’d like to be a rock star, traveling the country to perform in front of screaming crowds.

I’d like to open some form of a cafe. I’ve dreamed of having a bakery/coffee shop that also sells books. I’ve also thought of having a mommy-inspired cafe, with a menu focused on foods for each trimester of pregnancy, and post-baby. There would be an area for children, and a back room for childbirthing classes or prenatal yoga.

I’d like to be a midwife. Maybe in a local practice, maybe as a nurse-midwife through a hospital. Maybe in a foreign country.

I’d like to live in a foreign country. One with less comforts than here in America, where I’d learn to be more grateful for what I have.

I’d like to be a book editor. I’d like to have lots of important meetings and get to wear really hot power suits with expensive shoes.

I’d even like to write a book. But it’s got to be good. One that will undeniably get published and well-read. One with the beauty of Austen in today’s language. Which I’m not sure is possible.

Well, that’s a start anyway. The interesting thing is that once upon a time, the life I’m living was a dream of mine: married, with two lovely children. I suppose this should be a lesson in the “grass is always greener” concept. When I was younger, I spent time daydreaming about love and family, and now that it’s here, I spend time thinking about life without them.

These dreams are deterrents to progress. My progress. Admittedly, some dreams are possible, and can even be achieved with my family, but some dreams are just dangerous. I have tried this week to remind myself daily of the blessing that my family is. I have repeated the mantra “I love my family. I will have patience” while rocking my screaming son for hours. I know there are women who long for, and dream for, children, and yet month after month find themselves without. There are women who realize the joy of being pregnant, only to lose that child. I admit that I do not know what that type of hopelessness feels like. But I find that when I keep in mind how thankful I should be, I am actually more thankful, more patient, and more loving. Even on long, sleepless nights.

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Too Much Information?

Thursday, September 17th, 2009

I realize this may contain too much information, especially for those who haven’t been through the process of potty training, but I am so thankful that Emma finally goes to the bathroom on her own. Before we moved, we were getting on the right track with her, but in relocating to Texas, she was kind of thrown back a bit. We kept her in diapers because I didn’t want to clean up any messes, and she got pretty good at peeing in the toilet, but saved the rest for her diaper.

Next comes upset #2: the new baby. Somewhere along the line, Emma became fearful of the toilet, and it became more acceptable for her to poop in her underwear rather than the toilet. And she only went about once every 2 weeks. The crazy part about this bit was that Emma is such a neat freak. She can’t stand getting dirt on her finger, but a rear end full of ick is okay. I got pretty frustrated (and really sick of washing underwear), and I know at times I responded with little patience, and quite a bit of anger, which everyone says is an absolute no-no in terms of potty training. You need to let the child do it at his/her own pace. So we went back to diapers for a bit, and did a fair amount of yo-yo toileting.

Then we moved again. By this time, we were fully in underwear, and pretty accident-free, beyond a streak here and there, but she just wasn’t going. At all. Enter the next stage of fun: suppositories. There were some nights even that didn’t do the trick, and while I wasn’t having to clean underwear daily, I was worried for her, and still frustrated. We tried being mean, we tried being nice, we tried bribing, we tried reading stories…I read tons of articles about how to help her go, and tried everything. Finally, one night I told her she had 5 minutes to go on her own or else she was getting “the poop medicine.” A few minutes later she had gone, and we lavishly praised her and gave her a treat. This was the way it went for a while; if she hadn’t gone for a couple days, I threatened, she went, and then I praised.

Eventually, the threats disappeared, and she just got the hang of it. We try to avoid giving her treats or desserts in general, but every time she poops, she gets a treat. So tonight, as she runs to the bathroom to do her business (she’s faster than her dad, too!), and then I get to share in her joy and inspect her . . . uhh . . . you know, I am very thankful she’s a big girl now. And I think for the next one I really am just going to leave it alone until he wants to do it himself!

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